When you’re juggling work, family and other responsibilities, adopting a go-with-the-flow attitude can make things easier. But the tactic may backfire: If you never stand up for yourself, you’ll never get what you need or want -- and you may end up feeling helpless.
Fortunately, there are ways you can stand up for yourself without alienating others or creating conflict. One rule, regardless of the situation: Always begin with “I” statements, such as “I feel … ” or “I’m worried about … ,” says Helene Rothschild, a marriage and family therapist in San Jose, Calif. That way, you’re taking responsibility for your feelings rather than blaming someone.
